From ‘I Do’ to Done: Advice From Past Brides

Planning a wedding is one of the most exciting—and overwhelming—experiences a bride can go through. Between choosing the perfect venue, managing family expectations, and trying to savor every moment, it’s easy to get caught up in the whirlwind. From unexpected challenges to unforgettable memories, these past brides are sharing the advice they wish someone had told them before walking down the aisle.

1. Remember why you are getting married. It’s NOT about making other people happy.

2. Schedule 15 minutes alone with your new husband right after the ceremony. You blink and it’s over—carve out space to just be.

3. You’re not just planning an event—you’re beginning a marriage. Focus on the moments, not the menu.

4. Eat. Something. Before. The. Ceremony.

5. Don’t DIY everything—pick your battles.

6. If you’re not opposed to a ‘first look,’ DO IT. Get all those bridal party pictures done FIRST. Then you can actually enjoy your cocktail hour and mingle with guests!

7. Don’t expect it to be perfect. GO WITH THE FLOW.

8. Send thank you notes as soon as you get the gift!

9. If you can afford a full-service wedding planner, do it. At the least, get yourself a day-of coordinator so you can relax and enjoy your day. It goes by so quickly.

10. You don't have to follow traditions if you don't want to.

Looking back, this past bride wouldn’t change a thing—not because the day was perfect, but because it was perfectly hers. Her biggest piece of advice? Don’t lose sight of what the day is truly about: celebrating love, connection, and the start of a new chapter. The flowers will wilt, the cake will be eaten, and the playlist will fade—but the memories you create with the people you love most will last forever. So breathe, laugh, and let go of perfection—your day will be beautiful because it’s yours.